My mother doesn't consider computers evil - she works as a website designer herself. But she is unable to understand how the usage of a medium can differentiate between people.Shade wrote:Duh... When was the last time you actually had good news? ;/
Needless to say, that sucks.
But... I mean, seriously. If you're sixteen, why don't you argue back? You're an individual. You have an opinion and a right to voice it. Parents are not always right. Convince them that nowadays, computers and the internet are simply necessary. Regarding them as evil is antique.
At the very least, can't you find some sort of compromise? Surely there's a reason your mom dislikes you spending time at the computer, right?
Unlike many other people I acknowledge videogames as a medium like others, which can tell a deep and .
I use the internet to communicate with other people, including those I could not normally communicate with.
I don't read as much as I used to (I used to spend all day reading as a kid) since there is no genre of literature I'm specifically interested in right now.
Instead of watching TV (for entertainment), I watch Let's Plays and other stuff on Youtube.
I loathe physical exercise.
I'm awkward and shy and so on, you know, and I hardly take part in any usual social activities... I'm not much of an outcast anymore, but I just don't have much to talk about with most people, even though I want to.
In combination, because of these things I spend most of my spare time at the computer, which caused my mother to draw a premature conclusion.
In general, she seems to be quite obsessed with having control over my life. She's extremely worried about and concerned with my success/failure at school, especially since I didn't get my remove (that's what the dictionary says it's called; the term seems weird and situational, but I don't have access to an online dictionary right now) due to laziness, bad luck, lack of sleep, and the whole stuff that screwed me up during the last few years (things like arguments, pointless angst, and the combination of affection, idealization, debt and emotional instability which I used to consider 'love').
My mother justifies treating me like a child with my "irresponsible" behaviour.
Due to my absentmindedness, dislike for rules and duties and nerdiness and her exaggerated worries, she treats me like I wouldn't be an individual with an opinion and a right to voice it.But... I mean, seriously. If you're sixteen, why don't you argue back? You're an individual. You have an opinion and a right to voice it. Parents are not always right.
She thinks she'd hold me in leading strings (again, that's what the ancient dictionary calls it) for my own good, but something's seriously wrong with her idea of what's good for me. In the few occasions when I was free from her influence for some time (school activities like the excursion to Greece a year ago), I was a lot happier and more level-headed, social and mature.
Enforcing your ways and ideas in someones life requires considering yours and your insight superiour to theirs, and she treats my opinions and needs as worthless, even though she denies doing so. I want to live my own life, and I don't see why I should let someone control me without any regard for my ideas and needs.
Some time ago, she was about to kick me out, but I convinced her to let me stay despite all the arguments since there's nowhere else for me to go. She suggested <betreutes Wohnen>, which is much too embarassing to be an option and probably brings a whole lot of new problems aside from making me an outcast again; a boarding school is not an option either, since I'm in the last few months of school and would have to repeat two years (which I'm not even allowed to anymore due to my failure last year). And even if the law allowed me to earn a living myself, I wouldn't be able to do so yet.
Lately, she got all fired up about the idea of me being "addicted" to computers/internet/whatever. Every time I contradict is considered a confirmation of her irrational hypothesis and only worsens my situation. Every time she even sees me using the computer strengthens that fixed idea of hers. And if she knew I play "violent" games (say, Cave Story or Final Fantasy Tactics), everything would be much worse.
Two more damn years and her control over me will hopefully have an end.
(I couldn't post this yesterday because my internet connection was blocked except for the time between 9 and 10 pm, and I additionally had to prepare for an exam.)
I apologize; this probably doesn't belong into these forums, and I thought I would've gotten rid of my habit of whining a while ago.